It was one year ago today that Elena appeared in our hotel room.
I've been asked two or three times whether we plan on celebrating Elena's birthday, OR the "family day" when she came to live with us. Then answer, of course, is both! We want to acknowledge both the importance of her becoming part of our family (family day), and Elena's own personal importance, independent of the our family (her birthday). Minimizing either of these does a disservice to either Elena herself (by failing to acknowledge her life before she came to live with us) or our attachment to her (by failing to acknowledge the huge change in her life).
And celebrating twice a year isn't such a bad thing, either. Wish Elena a happy family day.
I've been asked two or three times whether we plan on celebrating Elena's birthday, OR the "family day" when she came to live with us. Then answer, of course, is both! We want to acknowledge both the importance of her becoming part of our family (family day), and Elena's own personal importance, independent of the our family (her birthday). Minimizing either of these does a disservice to either Elena herself (by failing to acknowledge her life before she came to live with us) or our attachment to her (by failing to acknowledge the huge change in her life).
And celebrating twice a year isn't such a bad thing, either. Wish Elena a happy family day.
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